Ways to create a secure relationship

Psychotherapist Sadaf Siddiqi shares five universal principles for creating a secure relationship.

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Accountability, which involves apologizing for mistakes and maintaining reliability, is key for a secure relationship.

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Holding a partner accountable also includes addressing red flags and being direct about inconsistencies.

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Managing conflicts IS essential. Avoiding it may lead to issues like the silent treatment or walking on eggshells

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Conflict management involves setting boundaries, listening to understand, and separating the person from the problem.

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Healthy independence in a relationship requires a strong sense of identity outside the partnership.

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Setting and honouring boundaries, expressing what is not okay, and accepting partner's 'no' are vital for respecting needs in secure relationships.

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