Netizens slam man who wrote brutal “performance review” for his stay-at-home wife  

A guy, who gave his stay-at-home wife an odd written “performance review”  has been criticized by netizens. The man wrote the reviews in a Reddit post.

Being a stay-at-home parent is difficult since there are no breaks or set working hours, and there is ongoing responsibility. A guy came under fire for providing his wife an odd written “performance review” of her stay-at-home mother duties because he thought she needed to do better. The couple has a six-year-old son, a 15-year-old niece, and a 13-year-old daughter from his his ex.

The man accused his stay-at-home wife of encouraging their daughter to assign blame and utilize events to her advantage after their youngest kid accessed the pool without permission.

The man wrote in a post on Reddit, “My wife has taught the youngest she can blame others for her actions to avoid consequences. She promises that one of the teenagers will be disciplined without a doubt. She is definitely my wife’s favorite. I love her, but she’s getting spoilt by my wife.”

“As an example, my wife and I both had an appointment that we had to go to. The pool had obviously been utilized by the time we returned. When we’re not home, they can’t go swimming.

The eldest said, ‘Mommy, I was in my room coloring; I never went swimming.’ That was untrue, according to the teenagers, and she had also gone swimming. Only the teenagers received punishment; my wife refused to impose any penalties on the youngest. Later, I discovered her wet bathing suit concealed in the garage. My wife and I got into a fight because I firmly believed that she should be punished for lying and swimming. I was forced to stop speaking after a protracted argument when she meted out the smallest punishment. The adolescents’ behavior was understandable as a result of the lying, blaming, and favoritism. Giving them extra work solves the majority of their consequences. Specifically, the 6-year-old’s tasks. I think they are so angry at their mother for treating them unfairly that they don’t even care when they verbally abuse her. After all, individuals already receive blame and punishment for actions they did not do; in my opinion, acting out provides them with a relief.

The guy said that he and his stay-at-home wife have frequently disagreed. Instead of getting into another dispute, he sent her a “performance review” that emphasized the need of being unbiased and fair in her decision-making.

I chose to write her a performance assessment as a SAHM, he said. She had a lot of room for growth, to be honest. But I did mention that she has to listen more carefully and quit being prejudiced. Stop making snap judgments without taking the three kids into account and start being fair in all your decisions.

I complimented her on her strengths in other areas outside parenting so it wouldn’t be a smack in the face. This would be the ideal option since I could arrange my ideas without her interjecting. But things rapidly went wrong. After I gave it to her, she was silent for the first hour. She then really lashed out at me, threatening to open a separate bank account and withdraw half of each pay period if we go forward with this. She said that the evaluation was unpleasant and a sexist, manipulative approach.

The performance review was criticized as condescending by people who read the post on Reddit.

One person wrote, “She should be paying closer attention. But seriously, a review of performance? What sort of response did you anticipate? You’re treating her like a temporary employee rather than your spouse. That was really patronizing.

Another remark stated: “The issues you raise are important and urgently require resolution. However, the approach you took was unhealthy. Taking care of your kids is not a project. You are her husband and the father of her child, not her employer. It comes out as incredibly snobbish and manipulative to give her a performance assessment.