Just when we thought ghosting was the worst thing to happen in modern dating, there’s a new toxic trend on the rise—being ‘Banksied’. If you’ve ever felt like you were wiped entirely from someone’s life without a trace, you might have been a victim of this ruthless dating behaviour.
But what exactly does it mean to be ‘Banksied’?
What Is ‘Banksying’?
The term is inspired by the elusive street artist Banksy, known for creating art overnight and disappearing without a clue. In the dating world, ‘Banksying’ refers to someone cutting you out so completely, it’s as if you never existed—they delete your chats, unfollow you on every social platform, block your number, and even erase shared photos.
Unlike ghosting, where at least the digital trail remains, being ‘Banksied’ is a full-on erasure. It leaves the other person confused, shocked, and often questioning their reality.
Why It Hurts More Than Ghosting
While ghosting is painful, at least you can scroll back through old texts and try to find closure. But with ‘Banksying’, it’s like your entire history with the person is wiped clean. It’s emotionally jarring, especially if things seemed fine just days before.
It’s not just rejection—it’s invalidation of the relationship itself.
Signs You’re Being ‘Banksied’
- You’re suddenly blocked everywhere
- All shared pictures or posts disappear
- No explanation, just complete digital disappearance
- Friends of the person start ignoring or distancing themselves too
How to Cope With It
Being ‘Banksied’ can trigger anxiety and self-doubt. But remember—this behaviour says more about them than you. Healthy relationships end with communication and closure. Focus on self-care, talk to friends, and if needed, seek support from a therapist.
‘Banksying’ is a harsh reminder of how impersonal modern dating can become. As cruel as it may be, recognising toxic patterns helps protect your emotional well-being. Whether you’re dating online or offline, communication and respect should always be the standard.
