One of a person’s best experiences in life is becoming a parent. Even while it is indescribably wonderful to have a child in your arms, you cannot ignore your obligations to them. While young children progressively begin to understand their environment, it can be challenging for parents to understand what they desire.
Although you are trying to provide for the children’s needs, you start to doubt your parenting skills when they start throwing temper tantrums. Tantrums are common among young children. Unlike us, kids scream, cry, or misbehave to vent their displeasure.
Each parent deals with these outbursts in their own manner, but is it best for the child? Furthermore, even parents become frustrated and weary of dealing with these meltdowns. Jazmine McCoy, a psychologist, has listed three things parents should never do when their children are acting out in order to serve as your guidelines. “I am aware that tantrums may be upsetting. However, may we just stop doing these things?” she said in her Instagram post.
Following are three things McCoy advises you to cease doing:
The psychologist advises parents to cease sending their children to their rooms or a quiet area to cope with their emotions. She continues by saying that this can make the kids feel abandoned and give them the sense that their parents are unable to care for them. Additionally, they begin to feel guilty for experiencing too many emotions and believing that these are incorrect. Finally, the youngster begins to believe that they must face life alone.
Second, even if the child must cope with their own set of emotions, the burden on the parent is not lessened. McCoy advises parents to avoid blaming themselves for their children’s outbursts or take this parent’s meltdown personally. “Their emotions are not your emotions,” she added, “and it’s okay for them to feel frustrated, upset, or disappointed with your boundaries.” While one should consider their parenting methods, they shouldn’t internalize the behavior of the child.
Finally, she says that giving in to a child’s demands won’t stop them from throwing tantrums. Instead, it should be made clear to them that feeling sad or dissatisfied is OK.
